the need for change
What do you do when you have hit rock bottom and you realize that change is inevitable?
Sometimes in life, we get to a point where we start feeling restless and unsatisfied with the way things are. We might have a nagging feeling that something is missing, and we can't shake it off no matter how hard we try. It's during moments like these that we need to pay attention to our inner voice and trust our instincts. When our soul yearns for something more, it's a clear sign that change is necessary.
In recent years I worked like a slave, leaving myself off the list and giving my all to everyone around me. My clients, my kids, my husband, and my loved ones. Hitting my rock bottom really opened my eyes to who really was there for me when I was depleted, mentally, emotionally, and physically drained. Spirituality was nothing to speak of, would say a word of prayer daily and give thanks but is that enough though. I don’t think so, see the thing about rock bottom is you get the clarity you need to all of a sudden see all the err in your ways. Having no choice but to face the facts, my life was headed in a direction that was going to be very unforgiving to me if I don’t do some serious course corrections.
At that time having no idea where to start I took to YouTube in an attempt to gain as much help as I could, barely to any avail I was still lost. Saw some people online charging a hefty sum just to help me to journal and connect with myself. Can’t say I wasn’t tempted because where I was at that point I desperately needed guidance. A deep dire need for a change in my life, there was greater purpose and I needed to know it.
Change can be daunting, especially when we're used to our comfort zone. But it's important to remember that growth only happens when we step out of our comfort zone and take risks. It's easy to fall into the trap of complacency and stick to what we know, but that can lead to a life filled with regret and unfulfilled dreams. See I found that what I needed at my lowest point was hard to find, so eventually I ended up becoming that for all the people that I would do their hair giving as much guidance and creating as much space as I could. Feeling the shift in my life from who I was to who I was becoming was scary. I knew that doing hair, my passion, my therapy, the love of my life the thing that provided for my family for over 8 years, was leaving my life and was being replaced by greater passions. I had to mourn the loss of love and embrace this brand-new journey with open arms and a positive attitude.
The good news is that change doesn't have to be drastic or scary. It can be as simple as trying out a new hobby, taking a different route to work, or making an effort to connect with new people. The key is to start small and build momentum over time. Eventually, you'll find yourself more open to bigger changes that can lead to a more fulfilling life. Having a positive outlook always made it easy for me to be accepting of the situation as is, not trying to think of what it should be or even what it was.
So if you're feeling stuck or unfulfilled, don't ignore that inner voice. Embrace the idea of change and take the first step towards a brighter future. Remember, you have the power to create the life you want, one small change at a time.
Diving head first into everything I do I got enrolled in Life Coaches school joined a beautiful community got to work on becoming who I know I was born to be. I truly wanted to learn how to help people in a more professional way, and oh let me tell you that paid off. Joined Toast Masters International so I could build on my natural charisma and interpersonal skills. Began learning a lot about all the things that piqued my interest and the more I learned and grew the results became evident in all areas of my life. I started showing up as a more compassionate, calm, and composed version of myself that all my friends and family admired, well some parts of it the parts that they could understand.
That’s a scary part of the change we hardly hear about, when you start growing the people that would benefit from you not being your best self are going to be the first ones to start having issues with your change. Giving rise to you losing a lot of people that you fall out of alignment with, the beauty about that is the universe always sends you people to support you.
So know that the journey might get a bit lonely and it can be hard but with patience and dedication, change can be a phenomenal thing to experience. Give yourself grace and stay positive accepting where you are while working hard towards your goals.
'The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude' -Oprah Winfrey.
